Teaching my Aspie about Sexuality

If you remember a couple of blog posts ago about Quinn's friend asking Hilary for sex, I mentioned that Quinn just didn't get the severity of that situation? We have tried to talk to him about sex and the human body but he won't have it!  Refused to learn about it in school too.

Well, we shared that story with Trish from Scope Children (our in home counselling service) and she assured us that him not wanting to even think about sex was normal. I mean, afterall, he is only 11 years old but he is also in Jr High.

Trish advised us that because he is in Aspie, we need to be in front of his changes rather than coming from behind.  She has provided us with lots of handouts to discuss Puberty and Sex.  By next week, we are to have read it, agreed on a presentation and figured out who is presenting it.  Our favorite sheet is on Masturbation, Quinn must look at the pictures of places such as, mall, school, library, kitchen, bathroom, bedroom, etc. and figure out where it is appropriate to masturbate.  The worry is that, he will figure out masturbation and love it, and want to do it all the time, just like any other boy. However, due to his lack of social skills, he will think about how good it feels and potentially do it whenever he feels like it. Normally, boys are embarassed about that and will hide it.  We are to create "Penis time" for him.  This will be a time of day and place where he can go and play with his penis. Penis time.  Yup.

Currently, my son says "Talking about sex and my penis is inappropriate", so this should be fun.  No kids want to talk about this stuff with their parents, I get that. But he is at a whole other level.  Currently, he has no interest in girls, or boys.

He was asked to dance at his Halloween Dance at school by 3 girls, said no to them all.  Mind you, he said he was worried he would injure his knee, which meant he would have to dance at half of his capabilities. If he danced half of what he was capable of, that would bring him down to Amateur Rank dancer.  Apparently, his full effort has him at Pro/Epic rate.  His mind must be a wonderful place! Cos when he dances, he just looks like he is jumping and running around, spinning on the floor!

I will let you know how the sex talk goes!