I read over the material I was given. I pulled out the workbook for Quinn and began.
I gave him a sheet that explained the male genitals terminology. Like, penis, scrotum, anus, etc... He looked at me and said "I know this already". OK, moving on...
"Quinn, what are some slang words for penis?"
I don't know. Hilary in the background "dick, twig, cock, one eyed monster..." Quinn says "That's inappropriate"
"What about slang words for the vagina?"
I don't know. Hilary in the background "vag, vajayjay, box..." Quinn says "That's inappropriate"
"Slang words for breasts?"
I don't know. Hilary in the background "tits, jugs, ta ta's..." Quinn says "Stop it!"
"Slang for anus?"
I am done.
Moving on...Hygiene. Now this topic he was into. It went well. Except for the facial hair part. He wants none. He also enjoyed talking about a healthy diet. We had to fill in some unhealthy items and he wrote:
candy, chips, pop, alcohol and blood.
Uhm. K.
Then came the fun talk about erect penis's, wet dreams and masturbation. But I was committed to discussing it and it went rather well as I discussed that and how his body is changing. then came the follow questions and responses.
What are some of the things that you have noticed changing in your body?
Nothing.
Something you are worried about?
Nothing.
Somethings you are excited for?
Nothing.
Then I asked:
Do you ever get an erection?
I don't know.
Have you had a wet dream?
I don't know.
Have you ever masturbated?
I don't know.
OK then, then I guess we will move onto Sex and Sexuality. He says "No, not today".
To be continued I guess.
In other news, that friend Bob of his who asked Hilary for sex and we had to drive home...remember him? Well Quinn told me yesterday that he is no longer friends with him. I asked him why and he said "He gets into too much trouble and gets sent home a lot. I don't want friends like that" That was from DAY ONE in Social Skills. Identifying good and bad friends and how to keep or end their friendships! So proud of my Aspie!
Thursday, November 10, 2011
Wednesday, November 2, 2011
Teaching my Aspie about Sexuality
If you remember a couple of blog posts ago about Quinn's friend asking Hilary for sex, I mentioned that Quinn just didn't get the severity of that situation? We have tried to talk to him about sex and the human body but he won't have it! Refused to learn about it in school too.
Well, we shared that story with Trish from Scope Children (our in home counselling service) and she assured us that him not wanting to even think about sex was normal. I mean, afterall, he is only 11 years old but he is also in Jr High.
Trish advised us that because he is in Aspie, we need to be in front of his changes rather than coming from behind. She has provided us with lots of handouts to discuss Puberty and Sex. By next week, we are to have read it, agreed on a presentation and figured out who is presenting it. Our favorite sheet is on Masturbation, Quinn must look at the pictures of places such as, mall, school, library, kitchen, bathroom, bedroom, etc. and figure out where it is appropriate to masturbate. The worry is that, he will figure out masturbation and love it, and want to do it all the time, just like any other boy. However, due to his lack of social skills, he will think about how good it feels and potentially do it whenever he feels like it. Normally, boys are embarassed about that and will hide it. We are to create "Penis time" for him. This will be a time of day and place where he can go and play with his penis. Penis time. Yup.
Currently, my son says "Talking about sex and my penis is inappropriate", so this should be fun. No kids want to talk about this stuff with their parents, I get that. But he is at a whole other level. Currently, he has no interest in girls, or boys.
He was asked to dance at his Halloween Dance at school by 3 girls, said no to them all. Mind you, he said he was worried he would injure his knee, which meant he would have to dance at half of his capabilities. If he danced half of what he was capable of, that would bring him down to Amateur Rank dancer. Apparently, his full effort has him at Pro/Epic rate. His mind must be a wonderful place! Cos when he dances, he just looks like he is jumping and running around, spinning on the floor!
I will let you know how the sex talk goes!
Well, we shared that story with Trish from Scope Children (our in home counselling service) and she assured us that him not wanting to even think about sex was normal. I mean, afterall, he is only 11 years old but he is also in Jr High.
Trish advised us that because he is in Aspie, we need to be in front of his changes rather than coming from behind. She has provided us with lots of handouts to discuss Puberty and Sex. By next week, we are to have read it, agreed on a presentation and figured out who is presenting it. Our favorite sheet is on Masturbation, Quinn must look at the pictures of places such as, mall, school, library, kitchen, bathroom, bedroom, etc. and figure out where it is appropriate to masturbate. The worry is that, he will figure out masturbation and love it, and want to do it all the time, just like any other boy. However, due to his lack of social skills, he will think about how good it feels and potentially do it whenever he feels like it. Normally, boys are embarassed about that and will hide it. We are to create "Penis time" for him. This will be a time of day and place where he can go and play with his penis. Penis time. Yup.
Currently, my son says "Talking about sex and my penis is inappropriate", so this should be fun. No kids want to talk about this stuff with their parents, I get that. But he is at a whole other level. Currently, he has no interest in girls, or boys.
He was asked to dance at his Halloween Dance at school by 3 girls, said no to them all. Mind you, he said he was worried he would injure his knee, which meant he would have to dance at half of his capabilities. If he danced half of what he was capable of, that would bring him down to Amateur Rank dancer. Apparently, his full effort has him at Pro/Epic rate. His mind must be a wonderful place! Cos when he dances, he just looks like he is jumping and running around, spinning on the floor!
I will let you know how the sex talk goes!
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