A whole lot of updating.

My last blog post was about our Walk for Autism. So let me update about that.

Our walk was a huge success!  The Aspie Avengers showed up in our custom tshirts and our capes made by Jesse.  We were in the front part of the pack, about 75 people back, and Quinn was annoyed about how slow we were walking, so he took off running. We didn't see him again until we crossed the finished line! He finished the 3k walk first!  Hilary got her face painted like a clown.  Hilary actually made a vlog about our walk. It falls off the rails when the walk was over, but she did a great job!

Quinn is doing not so great in school.  He did have a small bullying issue on the school bus, a kid was calling him gay.  He knew that wasn't really an insult so that didn't bother him, however, he knew what the kid was trying to do.  We spoke to the Vice Principle and they worked on resolution.  Yesterday, Quinn brought home his interim report card, its the halfway point in the semester, so they gave us a snap shot.  He is failing math and science. Which is odd, cos those are his best subjects. For his usually difficult ones, he's passing.  Weird.  We will meet with the teachers on Friday and see if we can figure that out.    We are also now getting some counselling for parents with special needs kids.  They help us come together as parents and how to manage Quinn.  Typical punishments don't work for kids like him.  So far so good!

Speaking of Quinn, he had a friend come over. Let's call him Bob.  Bob has been a good friend to Quinn since moving to his new jr high.  Bob came over for a sleep over.  Bob asked Hilary for practice doing it with his girlfriend.  Hilary was confused and said "it?" and he was like "yeah, I want to do it with you" and she was like "Omg, do you mean sex?" and he said "yes, I want to practice for when I get my girlfriend" Hilary was astonished and said "NO".  Apparently, Quinn said "you got guts man".  Hilary told Sandra, Andrew and I.  We laughed hysterically for like 15 mins.  But Hilary was totally creeped out.  When it was time for bed, I went into Quinn's room and I said "Did Bob really ask Hilary for sex?" Quinn responded with "Ya, because he needs to practice" and  I was like "Quinn, that is very inappropriate for him to ask that" but Quinn just didn't get it "He said he needs to practice sex".  Now, I have tried numerous times to talk about sex with Quinn but he shuts down when we do, which is why I was in the place of awkward.  So I just blurted it out "Quinn, Bob wants to put his penis in Hilary's vagina" and he made a gross face and said "oh". I was like FINALLY, he gets it! But, then he said "OK then, but he needs to practice". I told him we would talk about this further because clearly he wasn't getting how severe this was.

I tucked the boys in and said "Stay in your beds, and no bothering the girls" and went downstairs to my room and got ready for bed.  We were brushing our teeth when I got the text from Hilary saying "omg, he came into my room looking for sex". I thought she was kidding, then she responded with "Sandra is here in my room and I am super creeped out".  So she came to me and said that what had happened was, she was in bed, and she heard a knock on her door and said yes?  "Hilary, are you ready for sex now?" and she was like "Uhm no, I said no"  He opened her door and said "are you sure?" and she was like "yes, get out"  as he turned and left he said "I am ready, so just come see me on the couch".

At that point, I said to Andrew "he needs to go home".  We both agreed, after talking to Hilary and her saying she was worried he might try again when she was asleep.  I called his dad, he wasn't too happy to get that phone call, I explained to him what had happened, that we weren't upset about him asking Hilary but the fact that he went to her room was the problem.  He understood and said he had to wake up another child to pick him up, so I offered to drive him home.  It was the longest most awkward drive ever.  Bob apologized immediately upon me saying I was taking him home. I told him I wasn't mad at him, but that he was inappropriate and that Hilary was very uncomfortable.  When we got to Bob's house, his dad didn't even come to the door. I made Bob go get him.  I told him right away, "Bob has apologized to us already and we are not mad at him.  We plan on talking to Quinn about sex, he has Aspergers and he just doesn't get it, and perhaps if he had, he could've been a better friend to Bob tonight".  The dad then looked at me and said "Yah, I will deal with it" he then shut the door and turned off the outside light.  Awkward.

Bob has since called and apologized again. I told him we were OK and he and Quinn can still hang out.  Quinn still hangs with Bob, but not as much. He has branched out to other kids.

I have more to talk about, but I don't have time! Another day it will have to be!!